Advances in technology and internet have changed the way pornography is consumed.
Access to pornography has changed with internet advances and other technologies, there has been a rise in physical, mental, and emotional consequences that have never been "an issue" before.
“The reason I quit watching porn is to have more sex. quitting porn is one of the most sex positive things people can do. I just want to enjoy sex again and feel desire for another person.” -Alexander Rhodes
Pornography's Effect on Sex
Statistics show what effect viewing pornography has on the ability to participate in physical intimacy.
A Canadian study in 2014 found 53.5 percent of 16 to 21-year-old males had sexual issues, including ED and low sexual desire.
A Swiss study in 2012 found that 30 percent of 18 to 25-year-olds had ED.
A GQ article referenced a University study. Among 27-31 year olds watching porn:
19% suffer from premature ejaculation
25% are disinterested in sex with their partner
31% have difficulty reaching orgasm
34% experience erectile disfunction (PIED)
Among those masturbating the numbers were slightly lower:
17% suffer from premature ejaculation
20% are disinterested in sex with their partner
26% have difficulty reaching orgasm
22% experience erectile disfunction
As you can imagine this article created quite the stir. The author was interviewed about it in early 2015 and said the recent statistics are about 10% higher.
These physical changes are a product of what is going on with our mental state. Pornography has changed how we think about sex and what we think sex is.
In that same study, after committing to quit watching porn about 60% had improvement in their sex life.
The article wasn’t specific on why or how the improvement in their sex life came, but after learning about addiction and how pornography alters our view of sex we can expect that positive changes come when we are less exposed to fake connections like pornography. Less exposure can create a more realistic idea of what sex really is, connecting with a real life person. When we feel connected our lives are better. We are emotionally healthy as well as physically and mentally because of the connections in our lives creating wonderful relationships that bring joy and a sense of belonging.
Researchers have found that the younger a person was when they started using porn, the deeper levels of porn they are likely to use, and the harder it is to heal. Healing takes time but it also takes the right information.
So how do we decrease our exposure to pornography? How do we strip the appeal from pornography? How do we create a great sex life and healthy view of sex with those we love? How do we talk to our kids about sex and try to delay their exposure so that healing can come sooner rather than later?
We address each of these topics and more. We want everyone to have access to helpful information and we hope that anyone in any situation, parent, user, supporter finds something that they can use in their life to help them reboot their brains and rise from negative habits to positive healthy views, increasing quality of life and bringing feelings of belonging and connection.
“Human beings, fundamentally, are distinctly, spectacularly social. Lonely and isolated, we cannot survive, let alone thrive. For us, power and meaning emerge through making connections. Sexual desire, thus, is not chiefly aimed at physical pleasure or the production of children, but at connectedness with others. Sexual pleasure is fundamentally a social construct, an emergent property of social exchange.”
-Randall Collins, Ph.D.
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