When living in a world where almost all media is teaching an idea of sexuality, most parents still live in a phase where they have "the talk" with their kids. 77% of High School age kids say their parents have talked to them about sex one time or less. It is no wonder that kids say that their first source for sexual information is "google". Parents are tied for second with health teachers.
Kids are being bombarded with messages about sex on a near hourly basis. Kids perception of sexuality will form from outside sources if parents are not talking about sex on a more consistent basis than one formal sit down of "The talk". Realistic and healthy views of sex and intimacy are formed when a parent is the primary source of sexual information for a kid.
The truth is, kids are looking for guidance. 72% of young people say they would like to ask their parents a sexual question, but are afraid that their parents will overreact. Are parents ashamed or embarrassed about sex? Why are parents so afraid of this topic? Why do they react so franticly when a kid wants to talk to them about sex? Is sex something parents see as inappropriate or naughty?
This comes down to a parents own view of sex. Naturally parents communicate their view of sex by the way they talk about relationships or intimacy with their kids. When parents hide from talking about these topics with their kids they are sending the message that sex is bad. When a kids body and mind say it seems good and feels good, parents start to lose ground as a viable source. Parents need to see sex as a wonderful way to connect on a very vulnerable, deep level. Sex is beautiful . Sex is powerful. Help kids see that by talking openly and honestly about what a great connection it can be.
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