When we make mistakes want to hide. We feel a very powerful emotion called shame. This shame makes us believe we are not worthy of connection. We then hide and isolate ourselves.
“You are worthy of connection”
Addiction is about connection. As we hide we fuel our addiction to pornography. In order to really heal from these addictions we must connect with others people in a real way.
Pornography is one of the ways we as a society are coping with the crisis of disconnection. This is a crisis we are all facing. When we lack healthy bonds we will bond with something to ease our fear of disconnection. There are so many illusions of connection around us, we must get away from our drug of choice and form healthy bonds with those around us. We must replace shame with courage. We cannot continue to hide.
Ways We Hide From Pornography:
Ignoring the statistics we hear thinking we are above the issue
Accepting the dehumanization of society as the norm
Thinking "I can quit on my own, I don't need help"
Pornography thrives in the dark, it needs secrecy to survive in your life and in your home. Hiding from pornography is not just a users issue. It is the same issue for parents and spouses. Pornography must be talked about and faced. When pornography is brought into the light it becomes manageable.
Come out from your hiding places. Be open with your pornography struggles. Reach out and allow others to see the real you. You are worthy of connection. Believe that. We have an amazing opportunity to connect with others. Instead of isolating someone who struggles, reach out and connect to them. Help them see they are worthy of connection. We all know individuals who struggle, or have struggled with pornography. Reach out to them.
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